Comments on: Curfews For High School Kids

By: Mom

Mom — Wed, 24 Dec 2008 14:37:10 +0000

I think it depends largely on the child. As you said, you have kids that are involved in activities that you approve of and your children have proven to be trustworthy. A later curfew is reasonable if you know your child will communicate with you about his activities.

I also think that it’s important to start discussing these topics long before the child reaches the age where it’s time to make the decisions. Your children should learn early that you have certain expectations and certain rules. That way, it won’t be a shock to them to find out that they have a certain curfew at a certain age when their friends might have a much more liberal curfew.

By: robin

robin — Mon, 08 Dec 2008 12:19:20 +0000

I find that dealing with teens it’s best to let them think they are part of the “negotiating” process. Instead of merely laying down the law, by allowing them to have input a compromise can usually be reached. It teaches them that they can’t always have their way but they appreciate being treated like adults (even if they still act like children!).

BTW, I found your blog through Entrecard and find it very interesting. I’ll be sure to drop by more often!

Cheers!

By: Tammy

Tammy — Tue, 02 Dec 2008 14:50:59 +0000

I have 3 teenage boys and each are very different. My oldest will be 19 in January and he just comes and goes. I just ask him to let us know when he is working and whats going on. Plus to please call when he isn’t coming home. He is pretty good about it. My next son will be 17 on the 14th of December. He has a very busy life with school and sports. I find he runs himself so hard during the week that he sleeps all weekend and ends up not going out. This works for me, I know where he is. Then there is my 15 year old, oh my, this boy is really giving me gray hairs. He pushes every button there is with me. He is normally grounded and stuck home right now. I don’t really know what I’m going to do with him in the next couple of years. Next I have a 10 year old that is just as sweet as can be right now. I have found I don’t really like teenagers but I’m told that it gets better after the teenage year.

By: iceah

iceah — Tue, 02 Dec 2008 08:27:41 +0000

yup, teens now a days are advance that is why. in our time we are sometimes difficult to handle too so I should know how parents would feel because am a parent now c:

By: Ari

Ari — Tue, 02 Dec 2008 07:33:23 +0000

Denise, it sounds as if you have worked out a sensible solution to this question. Like you, our biggest requirement is that we should know where the kids are and who they’re with.

By: Denise

Denise — Tue, 02 Dec 2008 07:21:00 +0000

I’m not a parent yet. But my high school nephew is living with us. True enough, they seem busy in school and other teen activities. He has a curfew though. He should be in the house on or before 10pm. He, too, does go to school early. His curfew though on weekends is 12mn, as long as we know where he is and who he’s with.

By: Ari

Ari — Mon, 01 Dec 2008 20:24:50 +0000

@Kimmy; thank you very much, that’s sweet of you.

@ Atif; I agree, it’s all about communication.

Thank you both for stopping by.

By: Atif

Atif — Mon, 01 Dec 2008 15:20:22 +0000

Interesting post. It’s best to talk to them. Teenagers are sensible. If you force things on them, they’ll rebel but if you explain it to them and tell them why you’re asking them to do so, they’ll surely agree.

A lot of them are confused – even I was at some level. As long as they have good guidance, everything will be okay at the end.

By: Kimmy

Kimmy — Sun, 30 Nov 2008 18:18:21 +0000

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